Great Parenting tips for Nigerian Parents! It works!

Nigerian Parents in diaspora

Great Parenting tips! It works!

Parenting is one job that never takes a holiday vacation. Here are  tips to help you educate your child and guide them into adulthood:

 

1. Control what you can

Do not let your emotions get the better of you by responding with harsh punishments . The actuality is, when you are giving a repercussion, it isn’t about how bad it stings or how much you inconvenience your child, its about how dependable you are. Being steady and predictable usually works even if your child is not displaying his or her comfort in a visible manner. Stay focused on what you have control over that is your response. The wonderful thing about being in this process is that you can stay calm and in their corner, which is where you want to be.

 

2. Walking away;the best response

Most parents are often frustrated  and burned out from constant power struggles. in this scenario, it is best to set the limit and then walk away. This means not engaging in a power struggle with your child. Responding this way, enables your child realize that you will no longer encourage negative behaviour, and by taking some time to cool down and allowing  your child do the same, you are increasing the possibility  that you are able to have a peaceful dialogue with your child that is both effective and productive.

 

3. Tackle one behaviour at a time

Parents often focus on several behavior  issues at the same time. This is understandable but trying to it all at once is not an effective way of bringing about behaviour transformation. Giving your self the permission to slow down and focus on a plan to help your child practice better behaviour will be more effective ultimately. This will also give you and your child the chance to settle and converse on expectations and limits at home and school.

 

4. Role model the habits you want to see

Role modelling is the most powerful way to impact good habits and behaviors. Kids often watch what parents do more than they listen to what they say. If you practice a uniform technique of teaching and coaching your child with clear boundaries, prospects and applicable consequences and rewards, then you are providing them with the opportunity to solve their problems successfully. As parents, your job, is to provide them with the tools and opportunities to be successful; However, what they do with these tools and opportunities is not something you have control over.

 

5. Aspire for “good enough”, not “perfect”

Most parents often compare their lives and that of their kids to  what they see others doing.This isn’t right. Don’t give in to that “not good enough” mentality. you are not going to do everything perfectly all the time     You’re not going to do everything perfectly all the time. Sometimes you are going to continue engaging in a power struggle when you wish you would have walked away. Sometimes you will raise your voice when you wish you would have simply calmed  your child. You can learn from every experience and try to do it differently the next time. Also remember that your child is doing the best they can because at that young age, they do not possess the experience and strategies that will enable them to manage the feelings that come along with being human.

 

6. Don’t underrate the relevance of  self-care

It is very difficult to be a competent or active parent when you are stressed out and drained all the time. But, by practicing, you will have the energy or intensity to tackle your child’s behavior and feel empowered to always apply new parenting tools. Possessing a self care plan, can be useful in times of  stress. Self-care activities may vary from doing an activity you enjoy, taking part in physical recreation or even talking to someone about issues you are facing.

 

7. Persevere, behavior change is a process not an event

Bad behavior are learned and developed over time, this means that changing these behaviors and learning new ways will also take time. It is also important to recall that conceiving or establishing change firsts begins with the parent. The persistent and continual addressing of your child’s behavior and preferences will enable you to create an   effectual transformation for a long period.

 
Parenting is  one of the greatest experiences of our lives. The hugs, smiles and good times creating memories that last a lifetime for you and your children are worth any and all struggles you might face. You are not alone both in your  joy and struggles as a parent. Good luck!

Dazey Ezekwereogu
Content Curator and Editor-in-Chief at toscanyacademy.com. Contact Dazey with the following email address dazey[@]toscanyacademy.com

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